Avoiding Self-Rejection

Jasmin Acosta

By Jasmin Acosta

Everyone has experienced rejection whether it is from being rejected from a job, a romantic partner, or from family and friends. Oftentimes, this leads us to fear having hope and motivation to strive for our goals that we desire to reach, in order to avoid being rejected. However, we should not allow rejection from someone to lead to self-rejection. 

By running away and attempting to avoid rejection this causes our mind to constantly reject ourselves. When we continue to fear rejection we are prone to becoming accustomed to rejecting ourselves, which includes our goals, aspirations and desires. Where this will lead for us to become comfortable with living within our own rejection that we have created for ourselves, causing us to place our own barriers to overcome. Once our mind becomes accustomed to this cycle it makes it more difficult for us to believe in what we are capable of, and we lose ourselves defining our worth based on the rejection that we have received from others. Then this causes us to begin to live up to those standards that were placed onto us. Instead we should be living up to the standards that we set for ourselves and what we aspire to be. 

Rejection is rather an opportunity to search and find growth within ourselves, as we learn to appreciate and love ourselves outside seeking or having approval from others. Where this allows us to become resilient and to persevere through the barriers of rejection, and to see that our worth stems from within ourselves instead of coming from others. Our aspirations, goals, and desires are not something to be set aside because we were rejected. Along with this it shows us our capabilities and that we have the drive inside us to push ourselves to achieve our ultimate goals. Further revealing that it is possible to achieve everything we yearn for as long as we have the determination and believe in our capabilities.